Body acceptance is a journey. A journey that has been long travelled and is still being travelled. It is a problem that many have battled and many people like myself are still battling. Oh yes! still, but thank God I’m not where I used to be. Coming from a family of big people means one can not escape it. Honestly that contributed to my unhappiness and to me being a tomboy because that was a safe zone for me. I grew up in a community that worshipped thinness. They were the ones in trendy clothes and getting all the attention. Being the naive youths back then, we thought getting boys attention was a lottery win. Ha!! That really affected my self esteem. A wise man once said, we’re all products of our environment to some level. We’re either influenced positively or negatively, -but for some weird reason, we always let the negative dictate or control our lives which is wrong.
It became worse after giving birth to my son. Everything changed! I hated seeing myself naked in the mirror and even in some clothes. I was double my size and stretch marks just became my body’s best friend. From that point on, my weight has just been fluctuating like the stock market. I haven’t wore a bathing suit in my thirty three years on earth, but ladies, I’m wearing a crop top with stretchies on display. Okay you don’t see everything, but for me, this is a big step. Something out of my comfort zone. This is me saying I’m on my way to body acceptance no matter the bumps, lumps and all the other imperfections. Like hello! Just in case you’re on the same journey, below are some of the ways to accepting your body.
*Change and Improve Yourself*
And I’m not talking about going under the knife (not judging if you do). How about deciding to live a healthier lifestyle? Once I realised how I looked was getting to me mentally, I made up my mind to make better choices when it comes to my diet and exercise. I’m not entirely there yet, but I can tell you that these choices have made some changes to my body in a positive way. On top of that I feel more energized and jogging has helped me with my insomnia.
*Conversation with Yourself*
When you see your body as a blessing instead of its appearance, your mindset will change. Take five minutes each morning to talk to yourself in front of the mirror. “I can walk, dance, move my arms, pick my nose, move my jaw, I’m beautiful, etc. etc.” The more you repeat these affirmations to yourself, it eventually sinks in your soul and you start to believe it. You’ll see yourself in a different light. You will start to feel good and when you feel good, you’ll start to treat yourself well. That comes with dressing well for your frame and making better choices as stated above.
*Stop the Comparing Game*
The minute you start comparing yourself to others, you become depressed and inadequate. Compare to motivation, not depression!
Are you or have you been through the body acceptance journey? What are/did you do?
Hope your week is going well.